Last night was big. We picked up the last piece of furniture or equipment we need to have our house ready for Fost-Adopt certification. Once the last papers are in, we'll be in the final interviews process with our social worker, but the house...is ready. Vitamins are locked up, detergents are "inaccessible," rooms have beds, linens and dressers (thanks Morris Fam, Nelson Fam, Haggard Fam and freecycle!), carseats are stacked, stuffed animals are piled... it's ready.
Which also means that right now, it's kinda empty.
This is par for the course in the adoption world. You hurry up, get ready, and wait. This is also when people love to tell you, "Any day now," "This waiting is great character building," "God's timing is best," "There's a reason for this delay." Can I just advise everyone--don't say these things to an adoptive family. We know. Really, we do. But that doesn't necessarily make waiting any easier. We've already waited so many times in various processes, that another wait isn't exactly welcome.
Am I absolutely confident that God's timing is prefect? YES. But most of the time, we as believers end up sharing platitudes with each other that aren't helpful. Reminders of the timing just remind me how long it's been, how many starts and stops there have been. How long the crib and other beds might remain empty still. And none of this is encouraging. Sorry, just being honest here. And don't worry, I'm not offended by anyone who's ever said these things to me. I'm also fully aware that once my home is full of kids running around, I will have mother's amnesia as to how long this wait was (this is a paperwork pregnancy, after all).
So the point here... God's timing--absolutely amazing. I'm just announcing to the world that I'm one step closer to Him making something happen. :o)
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I understand completely. I cannot count how many times I've heard those things since finding out we can't have a baby. People don't understand that what is meant as helpful often just hurts.
Don't tell me I'm building patience (or any other virtue). Don't talk to me about timing. And please, don't do what three other people have done and tell me I'm "lucky" and that I don't know how hard it really is.
Just tell me you are praying, give me a hug, let me vent when I need to.
Here's praying your beds and hearts are soon full of the joy of parenthood.
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